I have just had a long conversation with an old friend Margaret, who was bereaved last November. This very close family lost a husband, a father and a grandfather and she lost her best friend.
It happens, death and taxes as they say... the only certainty in life. It makes it no less traumatic when it is expected; in this instance John died after fighting cancer for over two years, now my caring friend is left without a person to care for, or one to share her life, so the empty space looms large and a little daunting.
She has her family for support and has been to see cousins in Australia, traveling alone for the first time in her life. She learned to swim, snorkeled on the Great Barrier Reef and drove herself around city's and towns she did not know. She is justifiably very proud of herself.
She called to tell me all about her new life and ask about mine. We shared notes as old friends do, I have not seen her for many years nor do I plan to. Friendship that relies on constant feeding can be tiring and not always a two way trade. This one rests on the knowledge that we are just there; we can just pick up the phone and we as as we were, friends with a shared past, a spiritual connection and hopefully a long future .....so good to know.
We will be there for each other and all our friends providing the best support we can when needed. Just reminded me to be thankful for my wonderful support system of family and friends; thank you all for just being there.
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